SNAILMAIL TIPS #5| THE SO CALLED "SNAIL MAIL STALKERS"

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Hello everyone! How have you been? Today it was a cold rainy day. I spent it catching up with delayed work, mostly e-mails and trying to heal the most agonizing pain on my knees. For the past ours I was also exchanging some e-mails with pen pals about "pursuing already sent letters" and this is a most common and worrying thread than I imagined.

I know I'm always mentioning how all snail mailers hate when letters get lost, or when there's a not so great pen pal who never replies. But there's also another thing that's a constant subject around snail mail communities; one I personally also struggle with myself. Every time I spend time preparing and sending a letter, postcard or parcel for a pen pal, I'm obviously always expecting for it to reach its destination safe and sound, but unfortunately not always things turn out as we expect. Anyways, I believe I all feel the same about things we wrote and crafted to send to another being, we want to know they'll be safe. 

More and more I see people around social media almost pursuing their pen pals, asking for letters and postcard arrivals, as I see people sometimes complaining about the supposed stalkers. I must admit I find it a bit offensive to see the whole thing as a "stalking situatuion", it just means that people actually care about what they're doing and sharing with the world. And I'm also speaking against me, because whenever I'm in between cities I tend to take some time to let my pen pals know if my letter arrived or not, but I make my best effort (even if I have to use a stupid post-it) to keep track of my mail, and to help others keep track of theirs. I feel really mad about noticing the lack of sense and common comprehension among people, especially when the solution seems so simple that makes me wonder if this post is even worth my time.
The sad part is that it does. Last year I've sent several letter wish weren't answered for several months. Some of those I tried to contact to at least know if it had all arrived, but most of the times I wasn't lucky. Meanwhile I even sent second and third presentation letters, thinking about post services and such. Some were answered, yes - but, several months later, as if it had only passed a few days, making me feel instantly a bit lost and distant from that pen pal. And it does happen. It's a good thing to keep in touch with our pen pals.

We already spend to many hours on Facebook away from the ones we are close too, do we really want to spend hours pulling ourselves away from those we are still meeting? I encourage all of you to always leave an e-mail, a facebook/instagram message to your snail mail friends, letting them know you've got their letters. It's not complicated and it'll only increase each others respect and consideration, as another brick to build a strong bridge between you and your pen pal. 

With love, 

M.

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  1. Yeah... that's been such a problem. The thing with social media is it only marginally works for updates in letter writing and that kind of thing. Social media is truly an addiction. I've made a ton of pen pals in the last few years and it just ends with no response on their end all of a sudden. That used to happen ten years ago but it's just gotten more rapid lately. Real shame.

    That reminds me. I have letters to write!

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    1. That is right! That's mainly why I stopped accepting pen pal requests from social media. People are often following the hype of something and not really into being a active part of it. With this project of mine, I was able to find really minded people, kindred spirits who wanted to share something with me and the world :)

      Thank you so much for your visit!
      I hope to see you again, around here!

      With love,
      Mafalda

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  2. You can use a database for mail tracking, and a criterion for giving penpals further chance past a decent time to reply.

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    1. I do happen to use one of those. But this post is regarding those pen pals who actually don't like when senders are always asking if the letters have arrived, and don't seem to understand the importance of keeping track of everything we kindly send to them :)

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  3. Actually, I think I just figured out a way this kind of thing could work. I just sort of re-discovered an old method that did. Hmm, let me know if you're curious about it.

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